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Roja
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Only 10 days are left for the funtion. We all cousin
sisters divided the work amongst ourselves for the
20th Wedding anniversary of my parents. I was given
charge of catering and decoration. Immediately I
contacted our usual caterer and was on my job. But
the caterer was not responding to the phone calls.
My whole day went futile as I could not talk to him.
Next day, when I contacted, someone else picked up the
phone and informed that 90 years old granny of our
caterer expired yesterday and they all were occupied
with that. I felt sorry for the caterer and conveyed
my condolences. Again after Five days I contacted him.
In a bit angry voice he said, "Madam, why don't you
understand? We had death in our family and you want me
to work? We cannot move out of the house for 15 days.
I was shocked!! I started thinking. 'Is he really doing
something he wanted to do?' In India we all follow some
rituals and every community has different protocols to be
followed after death. But is it not a time to change
ourselves according to the changing world?
We all feel sorry when we loose our dear and near ones.
The rituals and protocols vary according to the education
standard, culture and experience.
I still remember the black day in my life, when myself
and my cousin (She is nurse) got a phone call that our
beloved cousin brother died accidently.
It was very sudden and very shocking. We had a long
queue of patients waiting outside the counsulting chamber.
Somehow we managed to explain to them and rushed to the site.
After sometime, I received a call from my Headquarter
that there was an emergency meeting which has to be
attended. Hurriedly I went back to my office attended
the meeting and prepared a chart of immediate actions and
instructions, which has to be given to the commandoes
who were ready to take their positions at China Border.
These things happened prior to the funeral. My work
at office settled. We attended the funeral and continued
seeing the Office ongoings day to day works too,
A few people objected asking me "Why don't you follow
the proper RIVAZ?" But I thought "We could do nothing
when our own Brother was dying and needed our presence
most. But let us serve the society in his name. Let us
do service to save someone else's brother/sister/mother or Father",
Why cant we think positive and be cool?
After our beloved's death, why can't we just do our work
or service as a tribute? In fact, we must work more, thinking
that we are working for that person's sake! Why can't we try
to reduce our sorrows by doing something good for others?.
Sitting idle at home and talking about the dead person, doing
all RIVAZ of big meals, get togethers, various programmes which
involves only money and nothing else, we can definitely do
some charity work in the name of that person.
Many friends well wishers came to meet me after hearing the
sudden demise of my beloved mother, to console me and
tell me that they all are with me in my hurtful days also.
All these people can contribute to the mission.
Mission to change our self,
Mission to help others,
Mission to serve people ! Let us change!!
Am I Right?
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